sex

This topic is immensely popular and the world in now more sex-centered than it ever was in the past.

The course of people’s lives is dominated and dictated by their sexual appetites.

We need to clearly understand God’s perspective on sex and Christian young people need to avoid wrong-thinking on this subject.

God designed sex to between two people for life…. read Genesis 2:24, Mark 10:6 – 9 … and I want to testify to the fact that when you allow God to pick your partner for you… your sex will be the BEST and you will have no “spiritual” guilt about it …. I have now been married for 21 years and I love her more than when we first got married.

But it was not always so…. as a young man, I explored sex according to my own desires… and discovered through hard experience and much distress, pain and suffering that nothing satisfying was possible UNTIL I accepted God’s plan and allowed him to guide and direct this area of my life.

I must not trivialize this … it is HARD for a Christian teenager to deal with sexual urges without sin…. “marriage” is YEARS in the future and right now…  urges seem “impossible” to control and hard to ignore……   if we sin, Jesus will forgive us and help us to carry on… but our GUILT comes about when we realize that we are doing this over and over again and that we actually LIKE our sin and dont want to stop…. it is at this point, that many leave the Church and “give up the fight”…. that’s what happened to me… I mean, what was the alternative, live as a HYPOCRITE ?

This is the experience of lots of Christian boys at puberty…. and from my experience, it just got worse throughout my teenage years.

MASTURBATION

The ERROR of churches that proclaim that masturbation is sin…

First they need to define exactly what “masturbation” is ?…  baby boys fondle their penis and experience “pleasant sensations” is it masturbation  ?… grown adult men may fondle their penis and enjoy the sensation of a “morning erection” but stop the fondling just before they reach orgasm … is that masturbation ?….. some teen boys could have an “unexpected” orgasm while hanging from a tree …. or rubbing their penis between pillows… is that masturbation ? … If we go with the above, then ALL MALES are masturbators to some extent…… if we say that “a masturbator” is limited to a person who manipulates themself to orgasm while looking at internet porn, then it is the porn and the LUST of it that is “sinful” …. but not the masturbation itself.

Second, they may take the position that masturbation is sin because it is self-pleasure and “sex” was created for the procreation of children…. but then all people should stop sex after they have procreated several children… and if the self-pleasure is the sin, then they should seriously take a look at all the other things that they do that bring them pleasure…. eating, watching movies or whatever it may be !

In reality…. masturbation is no more sinful than enjoying a good meal…. once the lust, guilt and addiction is REMOVED… or totally ABSENT.

ANYTHING can be a sin if … (A) YOU believe it to be a sin and  (B) you have no control over it.

Many of the Christian people who proclaim that masturbation is a sin are former porn addicts…. who, like alcoholics, MUST of necessity, keep away from it because they cannot enjoy it in a SINLESS way ….. or …

Ascetics…. people who believe that ALL “fleshly” pleasure is sinful…. an extreme position that frequently leads to HYPOCRISY…. when they are driven to much worse vices after years or unrealistic and unnatural ASCETICISM…

Read my post on MASTURBATION… a separate topic… to find out, if (or how) a Christians can masturbate without sin.

Read my post on ADDICTIONS… a separate topic… to find out, if (or how) you can overcome (or avoid) addiction to masturbation.

Young men who refuse to get sexually involved with girls because of their desire to avoid FORNICATION come under a lot of  silly scrutiny and may face questions about their “sexual orientation”

HOMOSEXUALITY

In 2011, much publicity is given to the “gay alternative lifestyle”… and this is RUINING YOUNG MEN….. natural curiosity about the sexual functioning of other boys is quite NORMAL at puberty and DOES NOT MEAN that one is “gay”…. read my earlier message on masturbation….  in fact, most boys have this mental curiosity although most deny it through fear of being thought “gay”…. because of the current global pre-occupation with “gay issues”, any boy who asks a question or shows any kind of sexual interest in another boy (or boys) is going to be regarded as “gay” and, what is much worse, may then REGARD HIMSELF as “gay”…. before he has even had a chance to experience a relationship with a girl, much less another boy….. this is a PATHETIC consequence of our society’s pre-occupation with sexual “orientation”…. I have met boys who have convinced THEMSELVES that they are “gay” and then proceeded to “live it out”….. and all because of some incident  that occured in their childhood.

Let me state empatically….. GOD DOES NOT CREATE PEOPLE “GAY”….  and this FACT brings HOPE to thousands of people trapped in “lifestyles” that are CONTRARY to the WORD OF GOD.

The gay “agenda”…. recognition and acceptance…. and everybody who stands in their way conveniently labelled “homophobic”…. is a MOST SATANIC distortion of human sexuality….. consistent with the END-TIME PROPHECY  and the rise of ANTI-CHRIST.

But for people who acknowledge that there is a God…. and that He is not just some impersonal, dis-interested “force”…. but rather a Creator with a PLAN, who has taught us the way we are supposed to live our lives…. we CANNOT just do what seems right to us and expect Him to accept our plan instead of His.

We must speak the TRUTH in LOVE…… I have very close and dear friends who are gay, although I would love them to come to Jesus and tackle their gay “problem” with HIS help…. I cannot change them, I can only love them, pray for them and and let them live the lives they have chosen for themselves…..  they know my position on the issue and if they still want to be friendly that is a GOOD thing….  as long as life remains there is HOPE for change…. and who can tell what the future holds ?

He says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death”…..   Proverbs 14:12 and Proverbs 16:25

He says,”If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have commited an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. (Leviticus 20:13)

He says, “The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment; for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.” (Deuteronomy 22:5)

He says, “Know you not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God ? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were SOME OF YOU; but you are washed, but you are sanctified, but you are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the spirit of our God.” (1 Corinthians 6:9 – 11)

First of all, homosexual behaviour is against God’s plan…. but so are many other more “respectable” vices, therefore homosexuality is not the “only” sin or the “worst” sin….. too many people believe that this sin is somehow “worse” than all other sin….. EVERYONE needs the SAVIOUR and not just homosexuals !

Secondly, God is willing to FORGIVE anyone that is committing sins…. and to ENABLE them to live the “proper life” (no matter how impossible that may SEEM to such a person in such a situation).

Thirdly, declaring that people are just “born that way” and everybody should just “accept” it, is the BIGGEST LIE of all….  it is nothing but a COP OUT and an EXCUSE… to “legitimize”  SIN…. Christians cannot support “gay rights” because it’s BAD for the gays themselves….. they need to see the NEED to change….  nobody should “bash” gays, they need respect and love, but NOT approval or affirmation !

Nobody should condemn anybody (because all have sinned in some way)…. but such people need to realize for themselves, that this “alternative lifestyle” IS SIN…. it is not “OK”….  and they need to deal with it … with the HELP OF GOD.

Simply because it is “hard” to deal with is no reason to pronounce it “OK” ….. such a position is FOLLY and contadicts common sense (why not take all the other SINS and make them OK too).

Sympathy, understanding and forgiveness is what a gay, transvestite or transgender person needs…  but NOT “a pat on the back telling them everything is OK and they can continue on with their lifestyle”

Jesus said to the woman taken in adultery, “neither do I condemn you. go and SIN NO MORE”… Read John 8:4 -11

God wants you to enjoy sexual pleasure… but in the right way…. see my message on masturbation for unmarried persons.

If you are a teenager battling with your own lust and sexual urges (as I once was), you may write me (or call) for prayer or advice… smendes@smendes.com…. (or call +1-246-230-4818)

Prayer for Today:

Loving Father, may my lifehood experiences help somebody today…. for Jesus sake… Amen.